You Can’t Be What You Can’t See

The quote “you can’t be what you can’t see” by Marian Wright Edelman, became a pop culture quote when it was flashed across the screen during Beyoncé’s movie Homecoming. Homecoming gave viewers an insight into the hard work and dedication her, along with her production team and dancers put into the now famous Coachella ( Beychella) performance.

This quote has been interpreted several ways, depending on the reader, their current status, and circumstances in life. Some believe this quote is about representation, and that if you do not see someone that resembles you, doing something you desire to do, it would be difficult for you to see yourself doing the same thing. In most cases this is regarding children of color not having “good” role models. This interpretation rings true, as it is important for children of color to see people that look like them, doing what they aspire to be and be inspired. Inspiration helps to strengthen their belief that it is possible to be whatever they desire. This is why representation is important.

My personal interpretation of this quote is different. Not that it is the right way, but it is my way. The way that I have interpreted it and used it to help me accomplish the biggest goal on my bucket list. This quote by the way is also one of my favorite quotes. A quote that I remind myself of when I need a pep talk, some confidence, or a push to continue a journey that I have become weary of and unable to see the proverbial light at the end of the scary tunnel.

During the time of writing my dissertation, I wrote this quote several times. On articles, on notebook papers, post its, on everything in sight. I even thought of getting it tattooed on my forehead, but thought better of it when the tattoo artist pulled the needled out and told me to sit still. I wasn’t afraid of the needle, but I just knew I wouldn’t be able to sit still.

 The dissertation process is not an easy one, and one which was made harder for me being a full-time student, mother, and fulltime employee. It was a laborious and tiresome process, where at times I felt defeated and wanted to give in and lay on the floor in a fetal position and cry. Well in fact I did a whole lot of crying. I cried so much I had buckets filled with tears that I would then drink to quench my thirst because I was so dehydrated.

But I never gave up. I kept on visualizing myself crossing the stage, collecting my degree with friends and family loudly chanting my name waving a victory banner. Some might say I manifested my degree.

If you are in a situation and you feel like giving up, visualize it. If it’s weight loss, see yourself at your goal weight. If it’s finishing school, being in a loving relationship, or getting a promotion at work, visualize it. You can’t be what you can’t see. Most importantly, remember to put in the necessary work. Manifestation only works when you are dedicated, work hard, and strongly believe the goal can be accomplished. Don’t sit around reciting “you can’t be what you can’t see” while laying on your couch. It doesn’t work that way, I know…I tried and only cried more buckets of tears when my dissertation wouldn’t write itself.

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